Day 25 – Moving Back to Move Forward

So I’ve been neglegent with my posts, so I’ve decided (insert groan here) that I’m counting the days in my challenge by days I’ve actually, actively devoted to the challenge! Surprise! So I know I should be around Day 30, but I’m actively at Day 25.

Intention: Honesty and Wholeness

So honesty is the best policy, right? Then why does it seem like most people don’t constantly apply this policy? I know it tends to be difficult, especially when you are already in the midst of lying, you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, or you’re just not comfortable being straight forward. But it’s still NECESSARY. It prevents situations of guilt, mistrust, and deception. Being honest creates freedom, freedom from the burden of lies. So over the next couple days I will apply this policy and allow myself to be aware of the manifestations of it in my life. I am a whole being, I came to this earth worthy as I am. I don’t need to have give people an “idea” of me, I can give them the honest truth of me. I won’t leave things that are an essential and important part of me to being revealed when they are “relevant”. All of me is relevant right now, all of me is dynamic, all of me is whole. I will know who is for me by who chooses to accept me. I will not know who chooses to accept me until I am my honest and authentic self in all interactions.

Manifestation: Wow, God is SO good! So, so good! I’ve had a ball this week. I made a trip to Atlanta to visit one of my closest friends and cousin. I expected it to be an amazing week, but I really had no idea! Currently I am a happily single woman, but boy does Atlanta make it hard. The manifestation of my focus on honesty and wholeness this week came into play with my encounters with the opposite sex. Why is it so hard when you are tempted by a beautiful man (or woman for some of you)? I had to make sure that I was extra clear with several young potential courteirs that I know what I want. Now mind you I slipped in one way very poorly. My eyes and body knew what it wanted. But of course my heart and mind were like, “Dayna freeze!” My impetuous tendencies always seem to get the best of me. And my intuition is always on point, but do I listen? Nope! This time however I stopped the madness before it could begin. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Be clear about what you want because conflicting agendas always breed bitterness and resentment. So I careful withdrew myself from a potential heartbreak situation and I am ecstatic about it. He was honest and I was honest in turn. I stepped away and I’m happier for it. That’s a lot to happen in only one week, you think? Well there was history behind it and this week it all came to the light. I get to have what I want, I am whole. This is God’s promise to me. I need to start with myself first, be honest with myself and I can be honest with everybody else. God is SO SO SO good. And I love her for it!!!!

Tools: Floor Planner

I love finding sites that help me get clearer about what I want. This site is so wonderful, you get to create your own floor plans and rearrange furniture, etc. I’m using it to map out my house (I’ve drawn it out and I’ve used a software on my computer, but this web tool is the most fun!) There are some fun features too, like you can change the color of the car in the garage to match the car you have or want. There are a variety of furnishings to choose from as well as colors. There are many more features so check out the site yourself: Floor Planner.

Some good applications for this:
1. If you want update your home and are trying to get an idea of how your furniture will fit.
2. If you’re attempting to visualize your new home you can work through an iteration of layouts to your liking.
3. If you’re expecting to add an addition you can work out the possibilities.

I think it’s wonderful, I was told once that you have to clear about what you want so you recognize it when it comes. Words to live by, and I’m using this tool to help me get closer to it.

Here’s an example that I pulled from the website:

Day 20/100 – Leap of Faith

This is cause for celebration! I’m 20% of my way through my 100 Day Challenge! Yay me! So I’d just like to start this day with a love note to mySelf and myGod.

I just wanted to let you know, beautiful one, that this morning you are loved. I love you just as you are, you are such an amazing person, and are growing each and everyday as a woman. I am so blessed to have been physically manifested in this body. As Dayna Nicole my life has been full of wonderful experiences that allow God to be glorified in this physical existence. Everyday I grow, everyday I am love, everyday I get closer and closer to the truth that is God. Be happy this day and everyday because you have the ability to make changes just as you’ve created in the past and present. The future is yours and because God loves you, you have the ability to co-create it to your liking. You are more than blessed, more than favored – you are destined. I love you girl!

So with the progress that I’ve made today I’m taking that leap. A leap of faith, a leap towards growth! I’ve included as a part of this celebration a piece that I’ve read that’s helping me make this leap.

Someday Never Comes by John Chow

God is SO good! Enjoy!

Days 18-19

Intention:Listening
I need to open myself up to paying attention to the things that are being revealed around me. I am being led, God is leading me. I need to open myself up to the signs that are ever present around me. I also need to do a better job of allowing the message to be revealed though others. God is ever present and is manifested in the world around me and through the people around me. I am allowing God’s love and light through my focus on listening.

Manifestation: I always used to (and sometimes still do) get upset with my mother because she is very forceful when she has something to say. The bigger problem is that she tries to make everybody listen (which she can’t do) and doesn’t listen herself at all. It always used to hurt me because I wanted my mother to listen because I needed her to listen to me. I could never understand why. And it bothered me. I recently started to understand why she responded this way. She never felt like anyone listened to her, so she never took the time to listen to anyone else because she was always trying to get people to listen to her. So I vowed to make the effort to be open to listening more. How can I hear God through other people if I don’t listen for her/him to speak through people? And how can I expect someone to be willing to listen to me, if I don’t open myself up and listen to them? I’m ready to receive God’s message through people, I’m ready to grow through the messages I receive daily. I’m ready to allow the reflections that I receive in my daily interactions with people and to grow from those interactions. God is SO good!

Validation it is! So I have another blog where I generally ramble and give advice to people who don’t really know they need it!  But what I do love about it is it gives me the opportunity to LISTEN! To open myself to what other people are feeling or thinking. This is a prime opportunity to receive God’s message through others. I posted a recent blog titled Moving into Necessary. It’s basically about moving past regret, doing what you need to do and not worrying about the supposed loses because the gains will outweigh them in the end. So I got a great response from my girl Relle and she had this to say: “Anyone that I love will be as a result of me loving me.” I needed to hear that, it is entirely relevant to my current situation. I am working on unconditionally loving me, always without hesitation and I’m getting better at it daily. Being able to successfully love another person is the result of me loving me. That’s what I needed to hear. It’s wonderful to have resources and support from God through loving and nurturing people. I feel SO blessed. God is SO good.

Days 16-17

Intention:Worthy
I am worthy not because of what I do but because of who and whose I am. I take the time over the next two days to note my worthiness. To step up and stand up for the things that I want. To use my voice to call things into existence. I make it a point reaffirm my worth starting today.

Because I was made in God’s flawless image, I am worthy. Because God loves me unconditionally, I am worthy. I was born worthy through God’s perfection. This day and everyday I will act on my worthiness. It is so.

Manifestation: So I attended a wedding last night of one of my close friends from high school. I was hesitant to go at first because, although I knew people who were going to be at the wedding, I thought I was going to be uncomfortable. I love Alanna and I love her family and all of my other close friends that were in the wedding and in attendance. But my problem wasn’t with them, it was with myself. So that was where the hesitation came from. I guess it has to deal with my uncertainty about my life and how they seemingly have it all figured out. Even though my rational mind knows that it’s not true, I still doubt myself because of it. I had to remind myself constantly of my worth as a person and a physical manifestation of God. So I went and I had the time of my life. Of course I started getting emotional at the site of Alanna and her new husband, they love each other so much. And it is so beautiful and I’m so happy for them. But I realized that I am worthy of all of that and more. I’m worthy of a partnership with a person who is more than capable, able, and willing. I deserve and am worthy of a dynamic, accomplished, loving, devoted and attractive partner. My focus has far too much been on the lack of such a person but no more. I am worthy and I make it so, it is so! God is SO good!

So tonight we went out with a couple of people I met at the wedding. A couple young men that have been friends with Alanna since she was born. One thing I love about people who have roots in African nations is that they maintain ties to each other. They create clans, not just friendships but families with people, they create kinships. It’s so beautiful to see people calling each other family when there are no blood ties. People flew across the country and the world just to partake in the wedding.  It was beautiful.  So I invited some of the younger people who weren’t familiar with Detroit out for a night on the town. I don’t think I’ve ever partied so hard! (Well, maybe!) But anyway we had a wonderful time. One thing I wasn’t so happy with though was that a friend of mine who knew what the night was about (hanging out ’till the sun came up) decided to bail on us. Now the problem wasn’t with the fact that she wanted to leave, my problem was with this being a constant thing with her. She’ll commit to something and then later decide she doesn’t want to go through with it, basically dragging the night down for the people involved. True that is her prerogative, however it’s mine to associate with the people I want to . I guess my problem with the whole thing is that in my close friends I’m looking for committed, trustworthy people. I’m seeking real sisterhood, much like the relationships I saw at the wedding. Friends that you can call at a moments notice and they’ll come to wherever you are to assist you. Not only do I want friends like that, I want to be a friend like that to other people. I am worthy of having supportive people in my life who, as my pastor would say, are my kinda crazy. Women who may not be like me, but who love me and accept me as I am, and are ‘ride-or-die.’ Down for me when I need them the most and when I don’t need them the most. Women who know how to have a good time and are comfortable with who there are. Classy, crazy, fun, reactive, confident, supportive, outgoing, flamboyant, trend-setting superstars! This is the intention that I set forth this upcoming week: I will attract to me real sisterhood in the form of women that are my kind of crazy, who are ride-or-die, and that I create long-lasting real friendships with. I am creating my clan, that will passed down throughout our lineages. It is SO! God is SO good!

Days 14-15

Intention:Meditation and Clarity
I’ve been clouded by other people’s thoughts and actions so I’m taking these days and paying special attention to what resides within me. I’m seeking clarity by going inward. Taking the time to meditate and focus on what I’m creating with my thoughts. Thoughts combined with emotion manifests. Distractions cause me to create unconsciously and by default. I actively block distraction. I actively create.

Manifestation: I’m having trouble keeping still and meditating. I’m getting really distracted by other people. I started to not pick up the phone a couple of times for certain people. I’m just not in the mood for the doubt and being annoyed. I tend to get really frustrated when I interact with people who have nothing ‘good’ to tell me. So today I’m taking a phone break, I’m spending more time outside and away from the nay-sayers and negative ones. I decided to get more personal with my posts. I feel like when I do decide to reflect back I’m going to need to see the progress I’m making. So that’s what the effort is for. I’ve been on the phone for the past couple of days with someone who has been frustrating me. I don’t want to feel pressured or obligated to do anything. And that’s all I feel – pressure, pressure, pressure. I need to take sometime away to retreat. So I’m going to have to take a couple Dayna Days. Coming soon….

So I’ve come to the understanding, through my meditation, that this pressure is coming from nowhere but myself. So when I did get some quiet time and retreated to that still, silent place I came to this understanding. I choose who to talk to and what to say. I control my thoughts and the time I take to help direct those thoughts. And I choose what energy to expel (consciously or by default). So it is my responsibility to take the time I need to retain my strength, to stay on my path and to have clarity in my purpose. I’m happy for this realization. God is SO good!

Days 7-8

Intention:Balance
I am committed today to understanding balance and creating an environment where balance is maintained. I take care to notice the balance of the universe in my daily tasks. The energy that I expel I get in return. I devote time today like everyday to studying my Law of Attraction principles.

Manifestation: So today and yesterday has all been about maintaining balance, and boy have I. Not only was I balancing areas in my life through direct actions, but I was allowing the divine to aid me in balancing out my world. It feels so good to co-create my universe! I just need to allow the balance, and work with it. It’s like swimming with the current, it only helps you to get there faster. God is SO good.

Day 6

Intention: Divine Order
I am committed today in understanding divine order. There is no such thing as a coincidence or good luck, everything is created as my creator and I creates it. Everything throughout my experience has been created with my consciousness (and ignorance to it) and my connection to my creator. I welcome the manifestations today and I pay close attention to synchronicity.

Manifestation: Wow!  Talk about overwhelming!  Within a 3 hour period I managed to hear a free seminar (as a guest I didn’t have to pay the $50) hosted by one of the world’s foremost marketing professionals, a free book, free lunch, and a job offer. Divine order has definitely been at work for me today.  I need to focus on this one more often, this was great!  I don’t have too much time to elaborate because I’m attempting to enjoy this feeling place.  God is SO good.  We are SO blessed.  It is SO.

Days 4+5

Intention: Meditation and Peace
Thank you Creator, for the ability to create a world of peace around me. By the simple power in what I choose to focus on and my faith in our ability to create it I will spend these days in peace. With myself and those around me I create peace wherever I go. I engage others and constantly reaffirm that we are in control together Creator. I thank you for my ability, I thank you for helping me to clear away the mental clutter and align myself with you.

Manifestation: I’ve been focused, constantly keeping in-tune with the source energy that created me. I’ve been an observer in my daily interactions, paying attention to the manifestations that are unfolding. I’ve taken the time to retreat to my inner self and allow myself the room to find peace. I’ve regained my meditation practice and remain silent and still and seek inward several times during the day. I wait and speak to the still, small voice that directs me farther and farther down the path on my journey. I am thankful and hopeful all the way. I am mindful of my ability and confident in the spirit that I co-create my experience with. God is good.

Day 3

Intention: Clarity
Today I allow myself peace of mind to see and get better acquainted with the path before me. I utlize my ability to have clarity and take the time to focus inward. I allow the world around me to continue to move, while I take the time to remain silent and still. Being clear reassures me of what is in-line with the person that I am becoming and keeps negativity at bay. I am confident, I am purpose filled.

Manifestation: Yay CLARITY!  I was so abundant in my manifestation of clarity today.  Not only were things spoken into existence by me and others, I was lead to the very resources that I need to continue on the path that I desire.  I received validation in the form of emails, kind words, and phone calls.  Even though the other parties may have not been as clear about the purpose of our connections, I understood thoroughly.  The clearer I become about my path and what I would like to experience on my journey, the more validations I get from the world around me that I can experience what I want!  God is SO good.  This has been a great day.  Ashe.