Tools: Life Coach 1.0

Do you need help with your top 3 goals? Are you having trouble starting them or charting out what to do? Well I have something that might help you – Life Coach 1.0. Designed by author Keith Ferrazzi, it helps to empower you to be your own coach. These are just introductory steps, but it helps a whole lot to do the initial steps.

Here is the description from the website:

This tool will help you take the first steps to becoming your own coach and achieving your life’s dreams!

1. Focus on what you want
2. Diagnose what’s getting in your way
3. Build a Dream Team for support

So what are you waiting for? Get started here.

Here is an example of results (no, these are not really mine):

Enjoy!

Day 20/100 – Leap of Faith

This is cause for celebration! I’m 20% of my way through my 100 Day Challenge! Yay me! So I’d just like to start this day with a love note to mySelf and myGod.

I just wanted to let you know, beautiful one, that this morning you are loved. I love you just as you are, you are such an amazing person, and are growing each and everyday as a woman. I am so blessed to have been physically manifested in this body. As Dayna Nicole my life has been full of wonderful experiences that allow God to be glorified in this physical existence. Everyday I grow, everyday I am love, everyday I get closer and closer to the truth that is God. Be happy this day and everyday because you have the ability to make changes just as you’ve created in the past and present. The future is yours and because God loves you, you have the ability to co-create it to your liking. You are more than blessed, more than favored – you are destined. I love you girl!

So with the progress that I’ve made today I’m taking that leap. A leap of faith, a leap towards growth! I’ve included as a part of this celebration a piece that I’ve read that’s helping me make this leap.

Someday Never Comes by John Chow

God is SO good! Enjoy!

Tools: Quotes

Be careful of the company you keep. I’m working on attracting and making myself available to people who can help me grow and who I can help to grow. Meditate on this for a moment and think about the people who are in your life. Are they adding to your growth or taking away from it? And if the later is true what do you plan on doing about it? After a couple of recent experiences I’m realizing I need to be more choosy about the people I spend time with. I am setting forth the intention to do this, because it’s necessary for my wellbeing and growth.

“One thing I’ve learned is that it is important to surround yourself with the kind of people you aspire to be. If you hang around with deadbeats and pessimists, you’ll end up with a negative view of the world.” – Tom Kelley

I’m choosing to have a positive view of the world and hopefully you will too. Enjoy!

Days 18-19

Intention:Listening
I need to open myself up to paying attention to the things that are being revealed around me. I am being led, God is leading me. I need to open myself up to the signs that are ever present around me. I also need to do a better job of allowing the message to be revealed though others. God is ever present and is manifested in the world around me and through the people around me. I am allowing God’s love and light through my focus on listening.

Manifestation: I always used to (and sometimes still do) get upset with my mother because she is very forceful when she has something to say. The bigger problem is that she tries to make everybody listen (which she can’t do) and doesn’t listen herself at all. It always used to hurt me because I wanted my mother to listen because I needed her to listen to me. I could never understand why. And it bothered me. I recently started to understand why she responded this way. She never felt like anyone listened to her, so she never took the time to listen to anyone else because she was always trying to get people to listen to her. So I vowed to make the effort to be open to listening more. How can I hear God through other people if I don’t listen for her/him to speak through people? And how can I expect someone to be willing to listen to me, if I don’t open myself up and listen to them? I’m ready to receive God’s message through people, I’m ready to grow through the messages I receive daily. I’m ready to allow the reflections that I receive in my daily interactions with people and to grow from those interactions. God is SO good!

Validation it is! So I have another blog where I generally ramble and give advice to people who don’t really know they need it!  But what I do love about it is it gives me the opportunity to LISTEN! To open myself to what other people are feeling or thinking. This is a prime opportunity to receive God’s message through others. I posted a recent blog titled Moving into Necessary. It’s basically about moving past regret, doing what you need to do and not worrying about the supposed loses because the gains will outweigh them in the end. So I got a great response from my girl Relle and she had this to say: “Anyone that I love will be as a result of me loving me.” I needed to hear that, it is entirely relevant to my current situation. I am working on unconditionally loving me, always without hesitation and I’m getting better at it daily. Being able to successfully love another person is the result of me loving me. That’s what I needed to hear. It’s wonderful to have resources and support from God through loving and nurturing people. I feel SO blessed. God is SO good.

Days 16-17

Intention:Worthy
I am worthy not because of what I do but because of who and whose I am. I take the time over the next two days to note my worthiness. To step up and stand up for the things that I want. To use my voice to call things into existence. I make it a point reaffirm my worth starting today.

Because I was made in God’s flawless image, I am worthy. Because God loves me unconditionally, I am worthy. I was born worthy through God’s perfection. This day and everyday I will act on my worthiness. It is so.

Manifestation: So I attended a wedding last night of one of my close friends from high school. I was hesitant to go at first because, although I knew people who were going to be at the wedding, I thought I was going to be uncomfortable. I love Alanna and I love her family and all of my other close friends that were in the wedding and in attendance. But my problem wasn’t with them, it was with myself. So that was where the hesitation came from. I guess it has to deal with my uncertainty about my life and how they seemingly have it all figured out. Even though my rational mind knows that it’s not true, I still doubt myself because of it. I had to remind myself constantly of my worth as a person and a physical manifestation of God. So I went and I had the time of my life. Of course I started getting emotional at the site of Alanna and her new husband, they love each other so much. And it is so beautiful and I’m so happy for them. But I realized that I am worthy of all of that and more. I’m worthy of a partnership with a person who is more than capable, able, and willing. I deserve and am worthy of a dynamic, accomplished, loving, devoted and attractive partner. My focus has far too much been on the lack of such a person but no more. I am worthy and I make it so, it is so! God is SO good!

So tonight we went out with a couple of people I met at the wedding. A couple young men that have been friends with Alanna since she was born. One thing I love about people who have roots in African nations is that they maintain ties to each other. They create clans, not just friendships but families with people, they create kinships. It’s so beautiful to see people calling each other family when there are no blood ties. People flew across the country and the world just to partake in the wedding.  It was beautiful.  So I invited some of the younger people who weren’t familiar with Detroit out for a night on the town. I don’t think I’ve ever partied so hard! (Well, maybe!) But anyway we had a wonderful time. One thing I wasn’t so happy with though was that a friend of mine who knew what the night was about (hanging out ’till the sun came up) decided to bail on us. Now the problem wasn’t with the fact that she wanted to leave, my problem was with this being a constant thing with her. She’ll commit to something and then later decide she doesn’t want to go through with it, basically dragging the night down for the people involved. True that is her prerogative, however it’s mine to associate with the people I want to . I guess my problem with the whole thing is that in my close friends I’m looking for committed, trustworthy people. I’m seeking real sisterhood, much like the relationships I saw at the wedding. Friends that you can call at a moments notice and they’ll come to wherever you are to assist you. Not only do I want friends like that, I want to be a friend like that to other people. I am worthy of having supportive people in my life who, as my pastor would say, are my kinda crazy. Women who may not be like me, but who love me and accept me as I am, and are ‘ride-or-die.’ Down for me when I need them the most and when I don’t need them the most. Women who know how to have a good time and are comfortable with who there are. Classy, crazy, fun, reactive, confident, supportive, outgoing, flamboyant, trend-setting superstars! This is the intention that I set forth this upcoming week: I will attract to me real sisterhood in the form of women that are my kind of crazy, who are ride-or-die, and that I create long-lasting real friendships with. I am creating my clan, that will passed down throughout our lineages. It is SO! God is SO good!

Tools: Mind Mapping

This is a nifty little tool I found for creating Mind Maps, it helps me to keep focused on what my goals are. It also lets me see how to break the huge goals down to smaller tasks. This way I can start on a fairly large project and not be overwhelmed. It’s heaven sent. I use a software called FreeMind and boy does it free my mind of all the mental clutter.

Update: There is an online version of the Mindmapping that’s also free: Mindomo.

Here’s the beginning of one of my Mind Maps that I’m preparing for my birthday (D-Day):

Days 14-15

Intention:Meditation and Clarity
I’ve been clouded by other people’s thoughts and actions so I’m taking these days and paying special attention to what resides within me. I’m seeking clarity by going inward. Taking the time to meditate and focus on what I’m creating with my thoughts. Thoughts combined with emotion manifests. Distractions cause me to create unconsciously and by default. I actively block distraction. I actively create.

Manifestation: I’m having trouble keeping still and meditating. I’m getting really distracted by other people. I started to not pick up the phone a couple of times for certain people. I’m just not in the mood for the doubt and being annoyed. I tend to get really frustrated when I interact with people who have nothing ‘good’ to tell me. So today I’m taking a phone break, I’m spending more time outside and away from the nay-sayers and negative ones. I decided to get more personal with my posts. I feel like when I do decide to reflect back I’m going to need to see the progress I’m making. So that’s what the effort is for. I’ve been on the phone for the past couple of days with someone who has been frustrating me. I don’t want to feel pressured or obligated to do anything. And that’s all I feel – pressure, pressure, pressure. I need to take sometime away to retreat. So I’m going to have to take a couple Dayna Days. Coming soon….

So I’ve come to the understanding, through my meditation, that this pressure is coming from nowhere but myself. So when I did get some quiet time and retreated to that still, silent place I came to this understanding. I choose who to talk to and what to say. I control my thoughts and the time I take to help direct those thoughts. And I choose what energy to expel (consciously or by default). So it is my responsibility to take the time I need to retain my strength, to stay on my path and to have clarity in my purpose. I’m happy for this realization. God is SO good!

Tools: Quotes

I feel like this quote is awe-inspiring. It didn’t hit me until I read it for the third time, let’s see if it works for you as well.

God became man so that man could become god, but He also became man so that man could become Man.
- Kallistos Ware

Days 7-8

Intention:Balance
I am committed today to understanding balance and creating an environment where balance is maintained. I take care to notice the balance of the universe in my daily tasks. The energy that I expel I get in return. I devote time today like everyday to studying my Law of Attraction principles.

Manifestation: So today and yesterday has all been about maintaining balance, and boy have I. Not only was I balancing areas in my life through direct actions, but I was allowing the divine to aid me in balancing out my world. It feels so good to co-create my universe! I just need to allow the balance, and work with it. It’s like swimming with the current, it only helps you to get there faster. God is SO good.

Tools: Visualization Board

I’ve created this board to remind me daily what my focus is.  This is to reaffirm what I am manifesting in my life today and in the future.  Please enjoy.  I have a copy on my computer desktop because I spend so much time on the computer, I see it often and I reflect on it often.  God is SO good.